It happened again!
I was enjoying an evening with my little 2-yr. old son at the playground when, BAM, it happened. You ever have one of those moments in life when you know you are being taught an important lesson?
Picture in your mind a chaotic atmosphere of over fifty little children battling for their turn to play on a handful of playground rides and objects.
Recipe for disaster, huh? That’s what I thought, too, until my observations quickly picked up something else.
Sure, they were running into one another, crying and trying to get ahead of each other for the rides. They were walking across other children who had fallen down in front of them and were pushing one another to get their turn. They were running to their parents for comfort after getting their feelings hurt.
As I stood there taking in the scenery before me, those little blessings of life showed me some important lessons about relationship success. If you will indulge me a moment, I will share with you what I found out.
Relationship Success Lesson #1 – The Principle of Fun:
Not much to say here! It’s simple; these kids loved to have fun.
In adult relationships, life throws curves at us constantly. Responsibilities come at us from every angle. It takes conscious effort to remember to have fun together in life. I emphasize the word, “together”. I’m not talking about the type of fun where the husband plays golf and the wife shops.
The “heavy” takes it toll on relationships, and we do well when we give our relationship a time-out from the heavy and lighten up. Couples who play together, stay together.
Relationship Success Lesson #2 – The Principle of Fascination:
As I stood there watching, it was interesting to see how the younger children reacted to the older kids. It didn’t take much observance to see that they were taken by and fascinated with them.
Fascination! While it is not a word often associated with relationship success, if you want thriving relationships, you may just want to give it some precedence.
I was blessed earlier in life to have a couple who had been married over twenty-six years model this for me. Whenever anyone saw them together, they were holding hands and playfully giddy as if they had just started dating. When I asked what caused her to be this much in love with a man after so many years of marriage, she responded, “He fascinates me.”
Let that sink in a moment.
Are you an interesting person? Would you consider yourself intriguing? Do you have interests in life that cause other people to want to be around you, or are you often bored?
A few things to note:
* Bored people are boring people.
* Having interests will help make us more fascinating in life.
* In the world of relationship enrichment, “Couch Potatoes Need Not Apply”.
Relationship Success Lesson #3 – The Principle of Forgiveness:
As I stood and watched, two children were running on the playground in opposite directions, and I saw it coming before they did. They each circled the same object until they literally met in the middle. Two more kids came around and did the same thing.
Tempers flared, emotions ran high, tears ran down their cheeks and feelings were hurt. Less than two minutes later, they were off running and playing together, and all was forgotten.
What would happen in adult relationships if we learned how to do that? Instead of internalizing everything, we learn not to take it all so personally. Instead of holding grudges, we learn to hold hands.
Children have soft hearts – life can sometimes harden them.
Sheds a little light on the phrase, “Except you become like little children”, doesn’t it?
Relationship Success – What Works
Are you looking to have some relationship success in your next romance? Do you always have bad luck and never end up with a successful relationship that goes anywhere? Would you like to know what you can do to enhance your romance and have success in love once and for all?
Most people stumble through a bunch of relationships before we come upon the one that really works. We grow and mature and learn more about ourselves and what we want. If you want to have success in the next relationship you try to build, read this article to see how you can make the next one the right one.
Be Honest
This isn’t a simple matter of being honest in what you tell him about you, but also in what you know of yourself. If you go out on the dating scene thinking you want a particular type of relationship (maybe one like your mother and father) but in fact you’d truly be happier with a more modern version of a relationship, you’ll only end up being unhappy in the end.
And when you do meet up with that guy who has true potential, be true to yourself. Don’t fake your way through a date and get him to fall in love with a woman who doesn’t even exist. Let him fall in love with the real you.
Be Open
Many women are closed minded when it comes to the men they date. They have strict guidelines and never stray. This can lead to many missed opportunities as perfectly good men pass right under your nose, unnoticed because you’re so preoccupied with meeting the perfect specimen.
Don’t just look at the face, but take the time to really look at the man. You’ll have a better chance at relationship success if you allow the right kind of man to get closer to you.
Be Reasonable
Once women manage to get that really good guy that they really like, it can be surprising just how quickly they turn on that very same guy. All of a sudden nothing he does is ever good enough and the poor guy just can’t get a break.
At this stage you have to ask yourself, did you just hook up with the wrong guy after all, or is this the man you really love, but you’re letting your frustrations of the day out on him.
Give him some breathing space and don’t harp on every little thing he does. He certainly can’t be perfect and you have to know that your way of doing things isn’t always the right way.
Love and Fun
Ultimately a man and a woman want to be happy together. If you’re always bringing him down or making him feel bad about himself and his relationship with you, there’s little chance you’ll find success in this relationship. Be upbeat and lively. Have great conversations with him and make him laugh. Remember to be amused by his sense of humor and remember to admire the man he is.
