We all dislike cheaters and liars but the fact that each one of us has probably lied once or twice in our whole lives, we often want to learn how to catch cheaters and liars who are habitually lying to us. Of course, learning how to catch these types of people will save us early from harm and hurt.
If you want a few tips to help you learn how to catch cheaters and liars, here are a few tips that you might find useful.
Body language
One of the important things that you can find hints on a cheater or a liar is their body language. Of course, one can try to effectively deny through words and tell a lie but their body language can often show the feelings of guilt.
Usually, people who are telling untruths cannot meet you in the eye, and their movement can be a little stiff and unnatural. They may show a fake smile or they may move into a position where they are shielded from you. Even as simple as hand gestures can also give you hints that a person is lying.
When a person tries to convey something and he wants the other person to get its very detail, he often uses hand gestures to emphasize and stress his points but when one is lying, he may not use his hands though. As mentioned, he can become stiff, as he hopes the other person would not know that he is lying. A person who is lying may also make hand to face gestures that may signal that they are trying to conceal something.
Keep in mind that some liars especially those who are compulsive liars and those who have mastered the skill may have already learned how to control their body language when lying and that, they may be able to control it as well. So this does not necessarily mean that a man who talks without gestures can be lying.
Detecting Lies
Learning how to catch cheaters and detecting lies can be a little easier if the person you are trying to read is someone that you are familiar with or you have been living with this person. Of course, you already have a baseline attitude and reaction that you can refer to when you want to decipher if he is lying. For example, women are often guided by their instincts when detecting that their partners are cheating because they may find some changes in the behavior and the attitude of their partner. Although some people are good in hiding the truth, there are always changes that can occur or happen n their body language or in how they deal with things as they may feel guilty inside – and that often leads to their detection.
There are also verbal clues to lies and cheating. At times, the person who is lying may unmindfully utter some clues that give you hints of lies. Even an unnatural silence can be a hint that there is something going on with the other person that he wants to hide from you. Of course, not all these signs are signs of cheating and lying. Noticing these once may not be enough, thus trying to read a person if he is lying may take time to detect as well.
Signs of Infidelity – Detect Lies Through His Body Language
Lying is one of the top signs of infidelity. Even if lying doesn’t always mean cheating, it is not possible for someone to cheat without lying to his partner. You are tired of his lies, but he seems to be good at coming up with excuses after excuses to keep you from finding out about his extra activity, but can he hide and fake his body language? You have probably heard that you should not accuse your spouse of cheating before finding a hard proof evidence. But…
Are you too busy looking for hard proof evidence – NOT paying enough attention to behavioral signs of infidelity?
Ok, here are some actions and movements to watch out for that signal the sign he is lying to you:
- He maintains eye contact a little too much. Obviously a cheater knows avoiding eye contact can show signs of infidelity – so to counter this he will look and stare at your eyes to fake sincerity. Good thing is he will do this a little too much, because it’s not natural.
- On the contrary, he may just be an amateur cheater, and will actually avoid eye contact with you. Maybe this is the first time he is attempting to lie, or he is not used to lie to you.
- He keeps on touching his nose. Research discovered that when a person tells a lie tissues inside their nose swell (So there are some truths in Pinocchio eh?).
- He touches his earlobes or behind his ear. This is also a body language give away that many are not aware of.
- He gives too much information when asked a simple question. He would try to make a perfect crime by not leaving holes and gaps in his story – little does he know it is giving away even more signs of infidelity.
- Repeating your question in his answers may also be a sign. Example: when asked “Are you cheating on me?” he would answer “No I am NOT cheating on you”. This can be because he is trying to again, buy time so that he can think of other stories in his head whilst lying to you at the same time.
- He stutters or stumble upon words. He realizes when he makes mistake in his story or when his story does not add up before you do – and he will try to cover it up.
- He is speaking a little faster than normal. You will know this if you know him enough. If not, start paying attention on how fast he talks compared to his normal talking speed.
- He is using a lot of ‘fillers’ such as um, err, ah etc.
- His cheek turns red – or really pale.
